Whatever the reason, when the child is injured internally, the parents' immediate psychological treatment will greatly help the child's healthy growth. The following 7 sentences are the most healing words that many Chinese and foreign parents have summarized in practice. Please speak up and speak out loud for the next generation of physical and mental health.
Child: I'm sorry
"Sorry" is how many children look forward to speaking from their parents. Every child does not want to be blamed, especially when parents misunderstand themselves. "Sorry", although there are only three words, the message is that I misunderstood you and even hurt you. I have something wrong. I acknowledge my mistake and sincerely apologize to you.
Child: It's not your fault
There are many reasons for a child's internal injury, which may be due to external factors or internal reasons. When a child is injured, it is often accompanied by negative emotions such as fear, sadness, guilt, etc., and it is often easy to point the finger at yourself, thinking that they are bad, and that parents will not love themselves. "It's not your fault." The direct message is that I didn't blame you. I didn't deny you because of this matter. I still love you.
Child: I made similar mistakes as a kid
When a child is injured internally, he often has an inferiority complex. Parents should tell their children empathy that I made similar mistakes when I was a kid, so that children understand that everyone makes mistakes, and making mistakes is something that everyone must experience in life. When the child is most frightened, the accusations from the parents are transformed into a kind of tolerance and understanding, and the child feels the love and warmth from the parents. When the trauma is slowly repaired, the child can also turn this tolerance of tolerance and understanding into a driving force for progress.
Child: This will never happen again
When parents realize that their words and actions have caused harm to their children, they should firmly tell their children that "this kind of thing will never happen again." This is a remark that requires parental reflection and responsibility, but parents also need to be cautious when using it. If parents always repeat the guarantee but keep repeating it, then the child's trust will follow. As the frequency of this sentence increases and decreases, its efficacy will gradually be lost.
Child: I love you
When a child is injured, it must be the child's weakest time. Please use love to do the best treatment for your child. Psychologists believe that "love is deep understanding and acceptance." The simple three words "I love you" convey the message that I understand your unhappiness and pain at the moment, and I am willing to accept you, no matter what you do wrong, what kind of person you become, you Always my dearest child.
Child: You are the pride of our family
Most parents have great expectations for their children. When children fail to meet their expectations, they may show blame, impatience, and disappointment. Although this may encourage some children to work harder to some extent, it also often conveys a signal "I love you only if you are good", in other words, "I may not love you if you are not good enough".
Child: Mom and Dad will never leave you
"Parents will never leave you", the transmission is more a kind of spiritual companionship and care. Deep in the hearts of everyone, there is an attachment to their parents, which needs to be loved and nourished.
Parents and friends, seemingly simple words, have you said that? If possible, tell your child today.